How to overcome unconfidence one step at a time
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Hani Al-Qasem
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Published on 02/27/2008
Wouldn't it be great to be rid of that nagging voice that stops you from moving ahead in life? The voice that stands in your way to more success?
How to get over that nagging voice in your head
Any time that you feel anxious you are not alone. Yet it is great to know that there are ways that you can overcome this obstacle be it in social situations, when making an important presentation or when you are going for a job interview.
In any situation.
Below is a useful tip that you can use to overcome that challenge. It is easy to apply in all areas of your life. Make it a point now to step out of your comfort zone and begin to see and accept a new you.
It is crucial that you have made that all-important decision that you are totally committed to make that work. That you are willing to do all that it takes to let go of the barriers that have been robbing you of a successful life.
Be decisive and keep it going. If at first you are scared, that's fine. It's normal. The next time you challenge your shyness you do so with less fear.
In due course this fear will have a less hold over you.
And as your commitment gains momentum, the fear that once held you back will have weakened, and you will be able to face many more challenges that you wouldn't usually handle or face.
Prior to an event that makes you uneasy write down what it is that is making you uncomfortable about the event. Get a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. In one column, Jot all the reasons why you are uncomfortable about that event.
Make a list and be as honest with yourself as you can. The longer the list the better and more truthful.
Once done, on the other column, write down how you would like to feel for each reason why you think you are uncomfortable. Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
Now each day, as far in advance of the event as possible, pick one obstacle with its counter feeling and find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for about ten minutes.
Seat yourself back or lie down and relax. Remind yourself of the way you want to feel and close your eyes. Imagine how you would like to act and feel. How you would talk.
Involve your feelings, and get emotional. Cry if you have to. The more emotional you get, the more beneficial this will be.
See yourself in your mind's eye doing exactly what you want to do. Feel it and see it with great detail. Take your time. No rush.
As the weeks go by before that event, continue to work down your entire list. Imagine being happy. Visualise it all with all the innermost emotions you can muster.
As the event draws closer, you will feel yourself becoming more confident and ready to take on whatever comes with that event.
On the day of the event, you will find that you are enthusiastic, confident and ready to get started.
You will feel optimistic, and your courage gradually increases as time goes by. Step by step, with each minute that goes by your confidence will escalate. You give a presence of confidence that you thought you never had.
Everyone will notice how you radiate confidence and courage.
The good news is that you can use this method with anything that scares you. You can use it for any event where you sense you lack courage. This tool is there for your use in any way that you creatively use it for.
It is extremely powerful.
Always begin with making a list of what makes you uneasy and find its opposite and imagine how you want to act and feel.
That's all there is to it. Remember to feel it and see it with as much emotion as you can get your hands on.
Believe in this process and you will undoubtedly reap all the benefits.
It is important to note here that repetition is the mother of all skill. Repeat the imagination method as often as possible. The more the better. This is how the mind works. Repeat, repeat and repeat until you achieve the outcome you are after.
Keep at it. Never quit. Always remember: Success is just around the corner.
In any situation.
Below is a useful tip that you can use to overcome that challenge. It is easy to apply in all areas of your life. Make it a point now to step out of your comfort zone and begin to see and accept a new you.
It is crucial that you have made that all-important decision that you are totally committed to make that work. That you are willing to do all that it takes to let go of the barriers that have been robbing you of a successful life.
Be decisive and keep it going. If at first you are scared, that's fine. It's normal. The next time you challenge your shyness you do so with less fear.
In due course this fear will have a less hold over you.
And as your commitment gains momentum, the fear that once held you back will have weakened, and you will be able to face many more challenges that you wouldn't usually handle or face.
Prior to an event that makes you uneasy write down what it is that is making you uncomfortable about the event. Get a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. In one column, Jot all the reasons why you are uncomfortable about that event.
Make a list and be as honest with yourself as you can. The longer the list the better and more truthful.
Once done, on the other column, write down how you would like to feel for each reason why you think you are uncomfortable. Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
Now each day, as far in advance of the event as possible, pick one obstacle with its counter feeling and find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for about ten minutes.
Seat yourself back or lie down and relax. Remind yourself of the way you want to feel and close your eyes. Imagine how you would like to act and feel. How you would talk.
Involve your feelings, and get emotional. Cry if you have to. The more emotional you get, the more beneficial this will be.
See yourself in your mind's eye doing exactly what you want to do. Feel it and see it with great detail. Take your time. No rush.
As the weeks go by before that event, continue to work down your entire list. Imagine being happy. Visualise it all with all the innermost emotions you can muster.
As the event draws closer, you will feel yourself becoming more confident and ready to take on whatever comes with that event.
On the day of the event, you will find that you are enthusiastic, confident and ready to get started.
You will feel optimistic, and your courage gradually increases as time goes by. Step by step, with each minute that goes by your confidence will escalate. You give a presence of confidence that you thought you never had.
Everyone will notice how you radiate confidence and courage.
The good news is that you can use this method with anything that scares you. You can use it for any event where you sense you lack courage. This tool is there for your use in any way that you creatively use it for.
It is extremely powerful.
Always begin with making a list of what makes you uneasy and find its opposite and imagine how you want to act and feel.
That's all there is to it. Remember to feel it and see it with as much emotion as you can get your hands on.
Believe in this process and you will undoubtedly reap all the benefits.
It is important to note here that repetition is the mother of all skill. Repeat the imagination method as often as possible. The more the better. This is how the mind works. Repeat, repeat and repeat until you achieve the outcome you are after.
Keep at it. Never quit. Always remember: Success is just around the corner.